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Become a better parent

Being a parent is one of the most rewarding jobs there is. From the moment your child is born you’re on an upward learning curve.

As I learnt with Chloe (left), as children grow, their needs change and you keep learning with them. Of course, we all make mistakes but we learn from them, too.

The Commonwealth Department of Health, as part of its national parenting initiative, has released a series of Tips for Parents booklets, covering toddlers to teens. Here are some tips to help you become a better parent:

Have a good time. Being a parent can be hard work. Organise things you’ll enjoy, both by yourself and as a family.
Anxiety and depression are common. Many children, adolescents and families have mental health problems, and it is essential you get help as early as possible.
Make time for yourself. Spend time with people you’re close to. Ask friends and family to help you out and give you a break if you need.
Spend time individually with each of your kids. Every child is different and what suits one won’t necessarily suit another.
Try to be consistent. Set limits for your kids that are suitable for their age. Tak to them about the limits you set. Try not to be overtly strict or controlling.
Kids are affected by parents arguing, so try not to include them. Let your kids know it’s not their fault.
Talk to other parents about their experience. Although every familyis different, you may get new ideas for your own family.
If you’re having problems, the earlier you seek help the better. You can get counselling from a range of community organisations. Talk with the child’s teacher or a community-care worker so they understand the situation.
Ask for help when you need it. If the first person you ask doesn’t work out, try someone else. Keep trying until you find what’s right for you and your kids.
Kids learn by watching you. They watch to see how you express your feelings, so be open about how you deal with them.
For copies of the free booklets, call 1800 066 247.